The thing is, my amazing wife seems to lose a loved one on an almost annual basis. We all lose loved ones and it really sucks, but the sheer number of deaths in my wife's family in such a short period of time is ridiculous. I'm pissed at the universe -- can you tell?
Wendell, post: 419677, member: 1 wrote: The thing is, my amazing wife seems to lose a loved one on an almost annual basis. We all lose loved ones and it really sucks, but the sheer number of deaths in my wife's family in such a short period of time is ridiculous. I'm pissed at the universe -- can you tell?
I am sure it is hard on you to watch me continuously go through this. But without you, I would go stir crazy. I am so sorry that I am going through it again and that I am putting you through this again, but I am so grateful that I have you to keep an eye out on things for me. You know how it was when my mom died...and now dad. When the grief is not so overwhelming, then I will be OK again and you won't have to worry about me. We'll get through this like we have gotten through everything else over the past 25 years.
I :heart: you so very much!! :innocent:
And thank you guys, for all of your comments and kind thoughts. I read every one!! I may not respond to each one, but I definitely feel the love and compassion coming through the wire here. :sun:
Sorry to hear that you're going through this yet again. I sat with my Mom before and after she came home on hospice and while I treasure the time we had; selfishly I hope for a lightning bolt when my time comes.
Noodles,
When you get Wendell's shoulder too wet, You know where to find me.
Prayers and thoughts are with you and your dad....
I lost my Dad at 81 to a carcinoma almost 10 years ago. His older brother died at 91 a few years ago. So I know it's a tough thing.
Again, I label myself lucky in a way on this topic. I come from a small family. The number of family related deaths is thus much smaller than would be the case for someone with a large, extended family. As my father was an only child and my mother had only two other siblings, I had a total of two aunts and two uncles. One grandparent was deceased prior to my arrival on this planet and the other three were gone by the time I turned 17, plus one of the two aunts. The remaining aunt and both uncles lived at such a distance that we learned of their deaths following their funerals.
I simply cannot imagine the ongoing sense of loss that comes with having a significant number of close relatives who are in the typical age range associated with "natural causes" being listed as the cause of death.
Wendell, post: 419677, member: 1 wrote: I'm pissed at the universe -- can you tell?
We've got your back man.
Many prayers for y'all. Stay positive and think about love!
:sob:
Like Holy Cow, I come from a small family, lost my Father 53 years ago and my mother 10 years ago, and probably the next, my heart goes to both, of you and all of yours.
Prayers for you, Wendell and the rest of your family at this time.
Mark
How heartbreaking. I'm so sorry Angel.
Oh Angel, so sorry for your troubles.
But it hasn't happened yet, so live for today - make the most of that time you do have left
Get out there and add to that store of wonderful memories
Its part of life, but a d@mn hard one. Channel George Harrison's lyrics, all things will pass. Make the most of your time, Stay positive, share love.
I've been there far to often, lost 4 good friends last year. Have lost both my parents, one left of my wife's and she is nearing end of life.
There is a higher place, its just the pace we all get there.
Peace and prayers sent Angel.
Some people think that only 2 things are certain; death and taxes...
I think they are wrong:
I'm pretty sure that there are lots of people that have never paid taxes and things might die but they don't disappear.
The only thing that is certain, is that Nothing is impossible; to comprehend that the universe is incomprehensible is a good place to start.
Prayers to you and your family...
Dougie
UPDATE:
I just realized I never responded to anyone after I posted dad was dying...I was in some altered state of mind I think. Mainly a broken heart. :broken_heart:
Dad died on April 10th. I was not told until May 22nd!! 😡
It all hit me like a ton of bricks. Heck, it still hits me like a ton of bricks...I am parentless!!! :sob:
I had to return home to finish up my parents estate, get the house ready to sell, sell the house, get my mom buried, get her headstone done, etc... I was gone for 3+ months! But, it was a good 3+ months. Stressful at times, but good. I was very lucky and blessed while I was away; I got to spend quality time with my best friends, my aunt, and with new friends that somehow came out of the woodwork when I needed them most. It also let me process the loss of my parents; being in their house for the last time, going through their stuff, reliving the wonderful memories over the last 25+ years, was like some sort of strange grieving/closing a chapter in life therapy. I am glad I had 3+ months to do all of this, rather than 3 weeks.
I am also glad to be home!!! I missed my cat, my own bed, my friends, my work, clean water, no smog, TREES and RIVERS, etc... Oregon rules!! :relieved:
Also, I know that there are some of you out there that we need to get stuff mailed out to, and I will be working on that VERY soon here. I didn't want you to think we forgot about you!! We didn't!! AND thank you for being SO patient with us! You know me...I will be adding extra "goodies" to your packages. I always do. :innocent:
Little story here...
Before my dad died, I told him sternly, DAD, you had BETTER let me know, somehow, that you make it to where you're going OK, and your with my mom, and you're all back together again. I mean it, I want a BIG SIGN from you! Multiple signs if possible!! He promised me he would let me know, and told me he loved me and would miss me, and how proud he was of me. :heart:
During the week of April 6th to the 14th, I was taking care of my dying next door neighbor. She was in the same line of work as me so we both knew what was going to happen, especially with her type of cancer. Her and I had many "spiritual" talks over the months about our experiences. Well, when she started actively dying, her husband and I did not think we'd hear from her again as her body had had enough and she was unconscious. One night though, she surprised us both and woke up!! She started chatting with us, telling us that "They're coming for me soon." I asked her who's coming?! Her husband said "Oh probably some Angels." She said "Yes, 3 or 4 of them are!" I kinda looked at him and just sat there, thinking OK, she just told YOU how many??!! Wow!!
She drifted back to sleep but then woke up a bit later and said "They're here!" I said "They're here?! NOW?! The Angels?!" She said "Yes, they're here!" I asked her where, and she pointed to the corner of the room, smiling. I started to bicker with these said Angels, telling them "Ok, if you're really HERE, let ME see you!" I threatened to throw flour on them to see their silhouettes. My neighbor and her husband were giggling over this, and I wondered if the said visitors were going to smack me right out of the invisible air. :rofl:
My dying neighbor then tells me "My ride is coming soon!" I said IT IS?! She said "Yes." Then fell back asleep. A few minutes later, she woke back up and said "My ride is HERE!" I said "Now?!?! Here?!?! Where?!" She pointed to the same corner where she had pointed before when the Angels were there and she said "Over there!" Her husband and I looked at each other, both thinking the same thing; her ride was there and she was leaving us forever! So...I asked her point blank. "Are you going with your ride then?!" She told me straight up with a smile, "Oh No. Not yet! They're waiting for me but *I* am NOT ready yet." I about fell over in my chair!! Her husband started crying; we were both just dumbfounded! She drifted back off to sleep and we just sat there, quiet, stunned, etc...
A little bit after that she wakes up again, turns to me and says "Angel, your DAD is here." I thought that was kinda odd. I figured she was talking about her dad, or papa, or God or some male figure in her life being there. So I told her "Oh, your dad is here! Tell him I said hi!" She says right back to me, "No, Angel...not my dad, YOUR DAD. Your dad is here!!" I looked at her husband and shrugged. I figured she had some spiritual dads confused. Then, she smiled at me, told me that I was "beautiful", told her husband she loved him, fell back asleep, and we never heard from her again. She died 4 days later.
Well, I did not find out my dad died until May 22nd. When I got Dads death certificate in the mail in late June, I was able to finally get the official "death date and time". He died on April 10th, at 8:33 PM. I went back to check my log books on when my neighbor was chattering to me...that night, the night that my neighbor was talking about the Angels, dads, rides, etc... was April 10th, at 10:33 PM. 😮
My dad did as he promised, and let me know he made it OK!! I just didn't put 2 and 2 together, then, because I was focused on my neighbors care. Had I figured she really meant MY dad was there, I probably would have lost my marbles for awhile!!! :smarty:
I love and miss you, Mom & Dad. :heart:
PS: Here's Moms Headstone...I designed it myself! Well, with a little help from Wendell. 😉
:sob: I got some dust in my eye when I read that Angel. Thank you for sharing and glad you're back home.
Angel, post: 452540, member: 100 wrote: UPDATE:
I just realized I never responded to anyone after I posted dad was dying...I was in some altered state of mind I think. Mainly a broken heart. :broken_heart:
Dad died on April 10th. I was not told until May 22nd!! 😡
It all hit me like a ton of bricks. Heck, it still hits me like a ton of bricks...I am parentless!!! :sob:I had to return home to finish up my parents estate, get the house ready to sell, sell the house, get my mom buried, get her headstone done, etc... I was gone for 3+ months! But, it was a good 3+ months. Stressful at times, but good. I was very lucky and blessed while I was away; I got to spend quality time with my best friends, my aunt, and with new friends that somehow came out of the woodwork when I needed them most. It also let me process the loss of my parents; being in their house for the last time, going through their stuff, reliving the wonderful memories over the last 25+ years, was like some sort of strange grieving/closing a chapter in life therapy. I am glad I had 3+ months to do all of this, rather than 3 weeks.
I am also glad to be home!!! I missed my cat, my own bed, my friends, my work, clean water, no smog, TREES and RIVERS, etc... Oregon rules!! :relieved:
Also, I know that there are some of you out there that we need to get stuff mailed out to, and I will be working on that VERY soon here. I didn't want you to think we forgot about you!! We didn't!! AND thank you for being SO patient with us! You know me...I will be adding extra "goodies" to your packages. I always do. :innocent:
Little story here...
Before my dad died, I told him sternly, DAD, you had BETTER let me know, somehow, that you make it to where you're going OK, and your with my mom, and you're all back together again. I mean it, I want a BIG SIGN from you! Multiple signs if possible!! He promised me he would let me know, and told me he loved me and would miss me, and how proud he was of me. :heart:
During the week of April 6th to the 14th, I was taking care of my dying next door neighbor. She was in the same line of work as me so we both knew what was going to happen, especially with her type of cancer. Her and I had many "spiritual" talks over the months about our experiences. Well, when she started actively dying, her husband and I did not think we'd hear from her again as her body had had enough and she was unconscious. One night though, she surprised us both and woke up!! She started chatting with us, telling us that "They're coming for me soon." I asked her who's coming?! Her husband said "Oh probably some Angels." She said "Yes, 3 or 4 of them are!" I kinda looked at him and just sat there, thinking OK, she just told YOU how many??!! Wow!!
She drifted back to sleep but then woke up a bit later and said "They're here!" I said "They're here?! NOW?! The Angels?!" She said "Yes, they're here!" I asked her where, and she pointed to the corner of the room, smiling. I started to bicker with these said Angels, telling them "Ok, if you're really HERE, let ME see you!" I threatened to throw flour on them to see their silhouettes. My neighbor and her husband were giggling over this, and I wondered if the said visitors were going to smack me right out of the invisible air. :rofl:
My dying neighbor then tells me "My ride is coming soon!" I said IT IS?! She said "Yes." Then fell back asleep. A few minutes later, she woke back up and said "My ride is HERE!" I said "Now?!?! Here?!?! Where?!" She pointed to the same corner where she had pointed before when the Angels were there and she said "Over there!" Her husband and I looked at each other, both thinking the same thing; her ride was there and she was leaving us forever! So...I asked her point blank. "Are you going with your ride then?!" She told me straight up with a smile, "Oh No. Not yet! They're waiting for me but *I* am NOT ready yet." I about fell over in my chair!! Her husband started crying; we were both just dumbfounded! She drifted back off to sleep and we just sat there, quiet, stunned, etc...
A little bit after that she wakes up again, turns to me and says "Angel, your DAD is here." I thought that was kinda odd. I figured she was talking about her dad, or papa, or God or some male figure in her life being there. So I told her "Oh, your dad is here! Tell him I said hi!" She says right back to me, "No, Angel...not my dad, YOUR DAD. Your dad is here!!" I looked at her husband and shrugged. I figured she had some spiritual dads confused. Then, she smiled at me, told me that I was "beautiful", told her husband she loved him, fell back asleep, and we never heard from her again. She died 4 days later.
Well, I did not find out my dad died until May 22nd. When I got Dads death certificate in the mail in late June, I was able to finally get the official "death date and time". He died on April 10th, at 8:33 PM. I went back to check my log books on when my neighbor was chattering to me...that night, the night that my neighbor was talking about the Angels, dads, rides, etc... was April 10th, at 10:33 PM. 😮
My dad did as he promised, and let me know he made it OK!! I just didn't put 2 and 2 together, then, because I was focused on my neighbors care. Had I figured she really meant MY dad was there, I probably would have lost my marbles for awhile!!! :smarty:
I love and miss you, Mom & Dad. :heart:
PS: Here's Moms Headstone...I designed it myself! Well, with a little help from Wendell. 😉
Sorry for your loss, but what a wonderful story of the life that continues beyond being here and the look into HEAVEN! Thanks for your update.
Powerful story Angel. Thanks for sharing.
