And I will add that many of us don't want to intrude into such a personal time but would be happy to help in any way, should we be asked or made aware of a need....
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Thanks once again for the thoughts and prayers guys. She is holding her own but every day sinks a little further. Hopefully it won't be long now. She a tough gal. The first thing she says to her visitors is how are you doing. Lying in a bed, waiting for the cancer to win and the first thing she does is ask about the other person. I'm loosing a true gem. And I'm all the better person for having this time with her.
It sounds like you are coping as well as possible.?ÿ She must be a good woman.?ÿ Reminds me of a comment from a surveyor who lost his wife a few years ago.?ÿ He said "She was dying, and her big worry was how I'd get along without her help."
It is incredible to me, that you are able to put these simple, beautiful, honest, true words down during this terrible time of life in such a positive way. ?ÿShe obviously has some influence.
The dying are almost always worried/concerned/etc...about the living, especially their loved ones that they're about to leave behind. I dont think I've had one dying patient ever tell me "Hey, what about me?!" They are always asking about how their loved ones are doing They don't want them to suffer and grieve, but...it's inevitable because that's the love we all have and give back to each other, coming through the grief.
Your wife is a gem. A true diamond. <hugs>
Well guys, my wife finally passed Tuesday. The love of my life (43 years) and best friend has found peace at last. My daughter and myself were holding her hands as she left us. After five weeks of home hospice its over.
Helping her reach the end was the greatest thing I've ever done or will do. I know she felt much better being at home with us and made the transition as happy a condition as is possible under the circumstances. She had no pain (that she would admit to). Her passing this way has made me a better person, I thank her for that.
Cancer sucks.
ontarget1 I am truly sorry for your loss and hope you fare well going forward.
My condolences on your loss.?ÿ My prayers are for you and your family.?ÿ?ÿ
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with us.?ÿ Take time for yourself before attempting to jump back in to the main stream of other responsibilities.?ÿ Peace be with you.
Bless you and your family. There's a special place in heaven for those who serve unconditionally and with love.
Hugs.
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Agreed - cancer sucks.?ÿ It took mom a couple of years ago.
Had a scare w dad last month and brought back all the memories.
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Take your time to deal with it, it affects us all more than we care to admit.?ÿ Good thoughts to you and your family.
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Second this, same thing FIL with cancer. The only thing we would have done differently is allow more help from the providers when they offered. We wanted to do so much ourselves, but exhaustion is a real thing.?ÿ
How we treat those in these conditions show how much we value life and the person. Good work and worth more than money.
It is times like these that I just hug. ?ÿBecause I have no words. ?ÿHere is my hug.
Sorry for your loss, thanks for sharing.?ÿ You did the right thing taking care of your wife.
3 years ago tomorrow I lost my best friend and only sibling, my brother who went to sleep and didn't wake up at the age of 57. I suppose it was easier for him to die suddenly, but those of us who loved him had no time to say goodbye. You all had that, and you did it beautifully. Cherish that (it sounds like you are) and embrace all those wonderful memories.
I am so glad that you had help from people who can truly make this difficult time as positive and graceful as possible. Thank you for sharing your story with us. When it comes down to it, we are all just people who will eventually have to deal with this, or our families will.
Thank you all for your prayers, thoughts and words of true wisdom! Lonely times ahead, but knowing that she was loved helped her pass in a better state of mind. I'm forever grateful to her for this opportunity, and the help I received on this board.?ÿ
Thank you one and all. It helps like you can't believe. Mom would be proud.
You were very fortunate to have each other.?ÿ Cancer is a terrible disease that took your wife's live but couldn't rob you of each other.?ÿ
You're a good man with a big heart. You gave her the most beautiful gifts and love, right when she needed and felt it most and made her transition peaceful and comfortable. Hang in there...be gentle with yourself. <hugs>
You and your wife handled this situation with grace and dignity.?ÿ
Do take all the time you need to gather yourself before making future major decisions.?ÿ This is not an easy situation and there is no need to rush into most of them.
You have my most sincere condolences.
And, yes, cancer sucks.?ÿ I lost my mother to it 16 years ago.?ÿ I am grateful that I was at her side when she passed.
