I thought this was better to share, here, since not all of you guys read every post. It explains why we haven't been very "active" lately. Please understand and bear with us as we go through the upcoming death of our loved one. :u: :'(
And please...do your guys best to get along with each other. It ain't worth fighting over. |-)
Thank you Perry. :-$
You are right, Wendell and Angel do NOT have time to monitor the board 24/7.
Especially with what has currently been going on in our lives. Since December, it has been a whirlwind of sick parents and us in hospitals taking care of parents. My mom almost died and was in and out of 3 hospitals over the holidays, then Wendell's mom got breast cancer and had surgery; and his "dad" (Step-dad but the dad that really raised him and who he considers his "real dad") has been fighting multiple myeloma for 2 ½ years. Now the cancer has taken its toll and his "dad" is in end stage kidney failure and is not going to live much longer. We've been watching him suffer daily now, and it is VERY heartbreaking for my husband and mother in law. :u:
(Update: Dad has stopped eating and is barely drinking.)
Anyone that has been through this, knows what it does to you and your loved ones both physically, emotionally, and mentally. On top of all of this, I have also been helping one of my best friends elderly parents and 87 year old grandmother as much as I can with things that are hard for them to do that are easy for me to do. (Those of you that know me, know I am very passionate about handicapped and elderly folks, and especially sick handicapped elderly folks.)
I take joy in being able to do the things for ANY of these people that makes them smile and happy. Just the simplest thing of taking granddad out for ice cream on Saturday made him beam from ear to ear.
And... since it was 91º out, it also got ice cream all over his beard! hehe B-)
So, now you guys know why we have been scarce. Some of you know but not everyone did and we were pondering on when to say something, and after seeing this post, well, I felt like it was finally time. I still DO monitor several hours a day, but a lot of the time it is from my phone and I cant type 100 WPM on my phone so that's why you won't see me answer too much on here or on Facebook if I'm mobile. But don't worry, I haven't forgot about you guys at all...and I know I still owe some of you some thank you packages and cards for donations; I have it all written down in my Beerleg notebook and once I get some true free time, I will work on those. :-$
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Angel
Don't you worry about us. We can be a bit cranky at times, but we'll get by.
You take care of YOU (and family of course) and we will take care of us. I know from experience how hard it can be to watch a parent weaken and die. Some times it's not what you say or do for them but just the fact that you're there. May God ease your burdens.
Andy
> (Update: Dad has stopped eating and is barely drinking.
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Two and 1/2 years ago, I was at my mother's side as she was taken off of feeding tubes as part of her living will.
As Andy mentioned,this was a very difficult. It was almost 12 days before she passed this life. I sincerely do not long for this to happen to anyone.
Angel and Wendell,
You guys are part of our "survey family". You guys and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Don't worry about us. We'll be fine. You are where you are needed. Everything else will work itself out.
Jimmy
Our thoughts and prayers are with y'all.
This is not the easy part of life. Just hang in there and know that we are there with you in spirit. Realise too that you have a much larger support group than you imagine. Everyone here is pulling for you to get through this inevitable phase of life.
Thanks for sharing, I'm sorry you guys are going through all that. I think it's a good idea to let everyone know what's up, hopefully it will create a more self-monitoring board that won't need so much of your time.
Andy
Ditto Andy, Jimmy and cptdent.
Take care of family. We can put up with the few who act out for a while.B-)
Been thru a few of those issues myself and I know it can take a toll. Our prayers are with you.
Just lost my dad a few weeks ago. He went peaceably and in no pain surrounded by his family after suffering with dementia for several years. You guys hang in there.
Alan
Angel
Just lost my dad to Alzhiemers, watching him die was terrible. Know that Bec and I are with you guys in spirit at least. Take care!:-)
-JD-
You are both very special people and you will stay in my thougnts.
God Bless you both,
Stephen
Thank You...
Thank you guys...it really means a lot to us. :-$
I will try to post updates as much as I can and when I can. Right now, things are about the same. He ate an egg, but it took him an hour to eat it. He had a little bit of water. Talked to his older brother for a few minutes on the phone, but is very confused at times. He lost 15 pounds between May 9th and May 14th; holds his head down most of the time and cries. :'(
I hate cancer. I really do. :-@
Thank You...
Love love love
Can't add much to what has already been said. Good thoughts going your way and heartfelt prayers going up on your behalf.
Our thoughts and prayers, too, are with you lovely people.
Best,
Mooshe & Henry
I am thankful every day that both my parents are still here and in reasonably good health into their 80's. I only hope that I can find the strength that you two apparently possess in this difficult time, if and when and hopefully (never) that time comes .......
Thanks for all you do here
Glenn
Spent nine days watching Dad die. That was unbearable. What you are going through is much, much worse. My heart goes out to you and all caregivers for the doomed.
You will get wonderful blessing for your service to family. You two are doing what I believe all of us should be doing.
God Bless
Jerry
I pray for you and Wendell a sense of the presence of the Comforter. I perceive from some of the things you write that you are people of faith.
May you find comfort for your hearts and strength for the paths you will need to walk in the coming days and weeks.
Thank You...
You have my heart on this....
Took my mom 6 months of fighting before her body gave out....
A grueling experience, but I'm so happy she's free of it, and her pain on earth.
My loss goes on, always will, just can't have that much of someones time, love, and company and not have bits hold on forever.
So, remember, you'll have all those good bits forever......
Shanti....
