.... Last June, we moved my invalid BIL into our house. At that time we knew he was terminally ill. With COPD and emphysema, he was at that time estimated to be at about 14-17% lung capacity. He's been doing hospice care since July. It's been a slow decline. He rallied a bit at his birthday- middle of this month- and was doing fair on Christmas day. Things aren't so good right now. This morning, I was a bit surprised that he'd made it thru the night. Body functions appear to be shutting down, so death is imminent. I'd expect 36 hrs at most. Keep us in your prayers if you would, especially Mrs. File. She's done a tremendous amount of care for him (her brother) and even though you mentally prepare for this, it's still a challenge. Thanks-
Prayers to you and the family. Toughest way to see a family member pass from this life to the next.
Many prayers for ya'll.
God Bless you. It takes a lot to do what you've done.
Any man that provides a family member a safe place to spend their last days is a Man beyond compare in my book.
paden cash, post: 351052, member: 20 wrote:
Any man that provides a family member a safe place to spend their last days is a Man beyond compare in my book.
:good::good::good:
Will do brother. How old is he?
just turned 59. Former Marine and Fireman.
I'm so sorry to hear this. Your BIL has been added to the prayer list. It's like the Marine Corps hymn says, he will soon be guarding the streets of heaven. By now he is probably more resigned to his fate than any of y'all. He's made his peace with God, but being a Marine he will go kicking and fightinf every inch of the way. That's what they do.
Tell him that this old Army Captains says "Semper Fi".
Now the one that really needs YOLU is Mrs. File. Stand strong for her. Have a shoulder ready for tears 24/7. She has a really tough row to hoe, so if she makes supper and uses dog food instead of hamburger, just tell her how delicious it is. Don't let her hear you throwing up. Nothimg her way but pure loive and understanding.
It's never easy and it takes a while to make the adjustments. Be patient.
Death is inevitable for all of us, but it seems to be much worse when someone can more or less put a timetable of expectation on it. You and your family are going through all sorts of emotional ups and downs, I'm sure. Peace be with you. Know that many of us are offering prayers on your behalf.
When the younger brother of Mrs. Cow was diagnosed as having a brain tumor the size of a baseball upon discovery the doctors said he had about six weeks to live. Exactly six weeks later, to the day, was when he took his last breath.
He passed at 0638 this morning. Thanks-
O wow! From our side, it can be rough, but Jesus is sufficient for these things. God Bless you all. Heavenly Father, we give you our lives, to be lived by your instructions. You tell us to trust in Jesus, and that HE is the way, the truth, and the life. He is our route home. We trust your word.
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Your BIL is no longer suffering. He's probably busy catching up with all the other Marines on the other side.
Rest assured, one day you WILL see him again. He will not be sick or in pain and the joys you will share will be boundless.
In the meantime give your wife a LONG hug. Keep holding her hand or shoulder as much as you can in the next few weeks. That contact will help her understand that she is not alone and that you are with her 24/7.
Rankin_File, post: 351141, member: 101 wrote: He passed at 0638 this morning. Thanks-
Sorry for you and the family. Explicitly your wife.
Nate The Surveyor, post: 351148, member: 291 wrote: O wow! From our side, it can be rough, but Jesus is sufficient for these things. God Bless you all. Heavenly Father, we give you our lives, to be lived by your instructions. You tell us to trust in Jesus, and that HE is the way, the truth, and the life. He is our route home. We trust your word.
N
Amen
Condolences to your family. I was going to say "thank him for his double service to the rest of us", but I see I'm at least a day late for that. I'll include your family, especially your wife in my prayers that the Lord lets his peace settle on your hearts & minds.
I know that times like this come with some mixed emotions. There's the sadness of the loss mixed with the relief for the end to their suffering. But there can also be some feelings of guilt at the relief to the difficulty of watching it and of doing all of the very hard work of caring for your loved one. When that feeling comes up, you immediately feel the guilt at having that feeling. Intellectually, you and everyone else knows that there's no rational reason for it. You and your family have been doing a great and very difficult thing. The emotional storm passes and memories of better times will remain.
God bless you and the rest of the File clan.
My sympathies to your family.
The healing process can now begin. Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Rankin_File, post: 351141, member: 101 wrote: He passed at 0638 this morning. Thanks-
Just having gone through this with my mom, I get it. My only relief in the entire process is that she is no longer suffering. My heart goes out to you and yours. :love:
Very sorry to hear of this.
I lost my Mother 1/13/2013. I found myself waiting to hear the phone ring on Christmas day. That probably won't stop any time soon.
E.
BigE, post: 351299, member: 435 wrote: Very sorry to hear of this.
I lost my Mother 1/13/2013. I found myself waiting to hear the phone ring on Christmas day. That probably won't stop any time soon.
E.
Same here. When my step-dad calls it pops up as "Mom" with her photo. I jump out of my skin for a brief moment. :-/
Angel, post: 351987, member: 100 wrote: Same here. When my step-dad calls it pops up as "Mom" with her photo. I jump out of my skin for a brief moment. :-/
That only happened to me once a few days after Mom died. My step-dad was cancelling her cell phone and deleting her contacts and accidentally called me. It was quite bone chilling and had the hair on my neck standing up.
Never the less, I still wait for a call from her on my birthday, Christmas, etc.
I suppose that's normal.
E
