We had our second child afew months ago, the wife retuned to her job as a dental assistant. She works 20-30 hrs tops. We are tossing around the idea of her staying at home and working for me and foregoing daycare care costs plus a once in a life chance to be with the kids. I could surely use the help as I currently work about 80 to 90 hrs a week, she has been handling my billing for years but I would have to teach her cad, research, etc. Any of ya'll tried this?
Ever eat too many sweets at one time and pay the price?
Too much of anything can be bad.
Think long and hard before inviting your entire family to affect your work schedule. It may work out perfectly or not..............
Your mileage may vary. It's just impossible to know in advance how well things will work out.
Adam, post: 337070, member: 8900 wrote: We are tossing around the idea of her staying at home ... and foregoing daycare care costs plus a once in a life chance to be with the kids.
It seems to me you've answered your own question. While the ex did not work for me while raising the child, I was more than happy to provide such an opportunity and, IMVHO, that fine young man my son has grown into was well worth the time, expense and effort.
He was 19 when I filmed this, and while it sounds squeaky, that's due to the poor microphone in the camera. In person he knocked our socks off:
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As stated above, your mileage may vary.
I have a home office and am with my wife a lot. I love it. I just love being around her. We've been married 24 years and I still miss her while in the field. At any point during the day I can go bug her and she can come bug me. She pays the bills I make the money. She home schools our youngest. The other three are out of school now. But she home schooled them too for much of their school age.
I have my two sons working with me. I love that too. I am also working on my daughter to be a draft person. She just turned 18 and is out of home school. But she is thinking about college. We'll see. If not I hope we can all work together for the rest of my life. Love it.
All four of my kids still live at home. I will hate the day if one of them decides to move out. My dream is if they move out. It's just to a house next door. So I can still be with them. And raid their fridge, but they will probably be raiding mine.
I've always been a family oriented type person but as Holy Cow says. Your mileage may vary.
If you have a strong relationship you have no worries.
My wife works with me in the office. She works abot 24 hrs a week handling the admin responsibilities. Sometimes it is trying but all in all I wouldn't trade it for the world. It has allowed us to keep money in house while being able to get kids on and off the bus and have time to handle the household. One thing you might need to understand is she never works "for" you.
I'd be lost without my wife's help in the next office. It has made a huge difference in our marriage and our business. Also, nice to be able to call home and ask her to read me the two coordinates I forgot to upload, or who LS XXYYY is.
My wife and I worked together, for my dad, starting in 1994. In 2005 we bought the business from my dad and have worked together since. We have done just about everything together, including renovating our house, building our wood shop, landscaping, raising our daughters, etc.
You need to consider your marriage and what type relationship you have. For some, that much time together is a godsend. For others, not so much.
Awesome replies, thamks
Ron Lang, post: 337088, member: 6445 wrote: My wife works with me in the office. She works abot 24 hrs a week handling the admin responsibilities. Sometimes it is trying but all in all I wouldn't trade it for the world. It has allowed us to keep money in house while being able to get kids on and off the bus and have time to handle the household. One thing you might need to understand is she never works "for" you.
More than likely it would be the other way around. Me working for her.
Uh, oh. 😉
There's a reason I'm not adding to this.
My wife stayed home and I worked.
It's the best way to do it.
Before you know it they have reached adulthood.
Is she going to have the time and energy in the next few years (until the 2nd goes to preschool) to work with you without help with the kids?
[USER=94]@Dave Karoly[/USER]
It's _a_ way that's the best for some people, but not the best for everyone. I'd go nuts if I stayed home with my kids (twins) full time. They've gotten much better socialization (one was terribly shy starting at about 6 months. He's much better now), more structured education and opportunities by attending a home day care and now a larger but very child-centered one. Plus I earn quite a bit more than their father does. It'd make more sense for him to stay home, but he would also find it difficult dealing with the dynamic duo all the time. Data points: His mother was stay-at-home, my mother worked.
mkennedy, post: 337208, member: 7183 wrote: Is she going to have the time and energy in the next few years (until the 2nd goes to preschool) to work with you without help with the kids?
[USER=94]@Dave Karoly[/USER]
It's _a_ way that's the best for some people, but not the best for everyone. I'd go nuts if I stayed home with my kids (twins) full time. They've gotten much better socialization (one was terribly shy starting at about 6 months. He's much better now), more structured education and opportunities by attending a home day care and now a larger but very child-centered one. Plus I earn quite a bit more than their father does. It'd make more sense for him to stay home, but he would also find it difficult dealing with the dynamic duo all the time. Data points: His mother was stay-at-home, my mother worked.
She works harder than I do at most of the things I have ever seen her do. I think she is definitely up for the energy requirements. I don't know how the teaching or training aspect will go, as I am the guy who will give the field guys a chance or two and if they don't get it I take the whatever out of their hands and do it myself. This approach works well with most young whippersnappers because it hurts the old pride a bit, I haven't found that approach to work quite as well with the her.
Referring to one's wife as "the her" will get you in trouble every time.:-D
Please understand that Mrs. Cow is a school teacher dealing with dozens of adolescents every work day. She is accustomed to laying down the law and demanding performance on her schedule. One day of that type of "coworking" and one of us would be looking for a different job....................or spouse.
I could've qualified that better. I didn't mean to sound judgmental.
My Sister homeschooled her children which she obviously thought that was best but we couldn't do that.
Forgive me, the her was a typo. I meant the hero of my life.
:-D:-D:-D;-)
Excellent. Set up a DBE.
If the baby grandchild is over at your house and she (Grandma) says, "Hey I'm not sure but could you check his diaper?"
I get him in there, OH GAWD call the Hazmat squad. I say, "Are you proud of it?" and he smiles at me.
Be warned, a word to the wise is sufficient.
