Well I am now divorced and have I decided that I want to move back to Winchester, Virginia. My folks are getting up there in years and I just learned that my old mans doctor told him he likely has lung cancer from smoking cigars for many decades. My sisters are there as well and I am feeling the pull to go home.
I have no clue what the job market is like up there but as part of the divorce agreement the houses are to be sold and even though I could very well stay down here I have made the decision to close up shop and sell all my equipment. I had to agree to some unpleasant things to avoid paying alimony but I would much rather take a a$$ whipping once and be done than have to take one every month.?ÿ
We have both houses listed and once they sell I intend to unload the equipment and close the company.
So, is there anyone here from the Winchester area?
Divorce sucks almost universally - sorry to hear that.
Can't help with the work outlook in Winchester, Virginia, but I empathize.
It is now more difficult to locate a middle-aged person who has never gone through a divorce than to find one who has.
About 20 years ago I was killing some time in a local cafe and swapping stories with whoever was present.?ÿ The subject of divorce came up and every person in the place had been divorced at least once.?ÿ The door opened and two people came in.?ÿ Both had been divorced, one of them four times.?ÿ A bit later the door opened again and in came another guy who had gone through a divorce.?ÿ It was probably 30 minutes before someone entered the place who had never been divorced.?ÿ BTW, this cafe was in a small town with fewer than 100 residents.?ÿ Back in 1966 when my sister divorced her first husband it was considered a major scandal and no one local even knew him.
My Cousin got married in Winchester about 7 years ago. That town is great! I loved it and I love Virginia (just not the latest Governor). We walked down the street from "Old Stone Church" to the reception at the George Washington hotel - Bagpipes and all! Full service Scottish wedding, it was fantastic a hell of a few days. Flew into Baltimore and spent some time in Harpers Ferry
Sorry for your situation, hopefully all for the better. At least you can be with your Father, perhaps the pay will be better that close to DC and the land is beautiful there.
My folks are getting up there in years and I just learned that my old mans doctor told him he likely has lung cancer from smoking cigars for many decades. My sisters are there as well and I am feeling the pull to go home.
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One of the best, yet most heartbreaking decisions I have ever made in life was to move back home for a bit to take care of my mom when she was diagnosed with Lung Cancer. It was absolutely excruciating watching her go through that process and watching her die, but...it was the best decision I made because I grew closer to my parents during that time than I had ever been in my life time. They saw me in a different light and it was finally my time to give back to them what they had given me all of my life through their sacrifices in their own lives. I have no regrets.
You're making the right decision for you. Going through the Big "D" is like a death in itself, then having a sick parent on top of that is definitely mentally/emotionally/psychologically challenging.?ÿ I am sending you healing, comforting thoughts and vibes. <Hugs> ???? ?? ???¬?ÿ
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Sorry about your situation and best of luck to you.
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On a lighter note, do you know why divorce costs so much? Because it's worth every penny! (I have a divorce under my belt too)
Best of luck to you, it's a tough road sometimes (most times).
To be honest, your thread title made me think that you had sold your Remington 700, and returned to the Winchester Model 70.
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I live up I-81 in Hagerstown....not sure about the market in the valley; I've been hauling my a** into the DC suburbs for the last fifteen years.?ÿ Indeed.com is a good place to look...a lot of firms around here tend to post their openings on it.?ÿ I don't see anything on the Virginia Association of Land Surveyors website.?ÿ?ÿ
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Short term I know a number of firms closer to the city have recently laid people off due to the "virus related" economic uncertainty, but there is a lot of transportation related work coming down the pike (as it were); something like $2B for I-81 over the next five years and a number of Washington/Baltimore corridor firms are moving a presence into the valley. So work is coming on the design side?ÿ
http://www.ctb.virginia.gov/projects/major_projects/i-81_study.asp
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And there's definitely work if you're willing to drive an hour and do heavy construction
https://famconstruction.applicantpool.com/jobs/
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Edit..I am opening an office in Sterling in the summer, but I'm mostly going to be doing BD work out of it at first.
Well Dang Steve.?ÿ I hate to hear about the divorce.?ÿ I guess I've been lucky, actually blessed.?ÿ We have been married for 43 years this past March. I had a fellow call me this weekend asking for surveyor referrals.?ÿ I gave him your name along with two others.
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I was raised in Gainesboro and Winchester was the nearest town of any significance and have only been to Hagerstown once.
I've been gone for a long time but for the past few years I have been experiencing what can only be described a pull or a longing to go home. Hard to describe but that is the only way I know to describe it.?ÿ
And speaking of Sterling, I am under consideration for a job with the Federal Highway Transportation Dept in Sterling. I would love to buy some land on the Capon River.
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I am not familiar with what you call B&D. Boundary and Design maybe??ÿ
Yeah, that communist governor is not my cup of tea and I will pray he gets shown the door.
Been there. Lost my father to lung cancer and went through a divorce in the same year. It gets better and it sound like you have the right plan for the right reasons. Good luck.
Oh I am not fond of selling my guns and I still have my Remington 700 and my Model 70 and many others to keep them company.
Although if I'm gonna be honest I have an emotional favorite being a Springfield 1903 A3 that I had completely rebuilt a few years ago that was my grandfather's, then my father's, now mine and will be my son's in the future. I have killed many deer critters with it.
my Parent's generation (WWII) believed love and marriage go together like a horse and carriage, meet, fall in love, get married, get divorced, meet, fall in love, get married, get divorced, meet, fall in love, get married, get divorced, etc.
My parents stayed married (57 years when my Dad died) but each of their siblings had more than two marriages, at least one had 4 marriages. You have to get married, can't just have a fling, nope, must get married.
I'm still married to my first wife, sister first husband, brother second wife (divorce), brother second wife (first died forty years ago). My wife's brothers both first marriage, no divorces. She has an Aunt that divorced her first husband (he deserved it).
My Mother would say, "I don't know why these women can't get along with their men."
in my opinion the secret is a willingness to fight, prevents the buildup of resentment.
You're a survivor for sure but best of wishes for a more pleasant future anyway.?ÿ
Business Development (I'm not a surveyor anymore, I'm a "suit")...the company I work for has been in Maryland for 25+ years doing geotechnical engineering, with survey and civil engineering for the last six.
We just opened a small office in Fairfax last year with one geotechnical engineer and one marking manager; so when we move to a larger space in Sterling in a few months I'll be working to expand the survey, subsurface utility engineering, and civil (transportation, utilities, and public works, no land development) engineering market in Virginia.
It is now more difficult to locate a middle-aged person who has never gone through a divorce than to find one who has.
There are innumerable ways to calculate the divorce rate, but in general it's still in the 40-50% range.
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@just-a-surveyor I had an 03A3 that had been cut down and mounted in a Monte Carlo stock. It had a Unertl scope on it that was as solid as a rock. I dropped it out of a tree stand one time and didn't have to turn a screw to keep it on the bulls eye. It was stolen out of a cousin's truck $*&^R^%$ it.
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If you see a great marriage, there's nothing like it.
If you see a rotten marriage, there's nothing like it.
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