loosing loved ones

It never, never goes away. We still hang Rena's xmas stocking up with the other kid's. This time of year is always tough on Bec & I, still miss her deeply. It is a visceral pain that sets in deep. My heart goes out to all the folks in Newtown, as well as others that have lost loved ones..

:u: 🙁

-JD-

For JD...

Thought you could use one right now... :love:

Today has not been good. Sinc passing really breaks my heart. :u:

My mom is in the hospital, plus my W's stepfather is dying from stupid cancer. My foot is causing me horrendous pain and needs major surgery. The holidays around here have been extremely emotionally and mentally difficult right now on the both of us and we're doing all we can to stay positive and afloat but sometimes it is easier said than done. :-/

Tomorrow will also be 2 years since W and I lost grandma. :'(

Old or young, the void they leave in our hearts when they leave us always remains. I wish there was some way, a magic cure, anything, just A way to make the pain go away. The only thing I can come up with that would work is if they got to come back and visit us and spend REAL human time with us. Imagine if that was possible?! "Yea, I get to visit from above and spend 2 weeks with ya...let's go have coffee! Let's go do whatever you want to do with me! I am ALL yours!! And I get to return a few times a year!!" I would crap green apples if this was possible. I'd LOVE to be able to spend 2 weeks with my grandparents, just spoiling them rotten.

Ahhhh the dreamer in me... :whistle:

Green Apple Love

> I would crap green apples if this was possible.
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> Ahhhh the dreamer in me... :whistle:

I just love, love, don't you?

Angel

Thanks, I needed a hug! Yep, it is a big hole. 'Bout the only thing you can do is keep on keepin' on. My outlet is my work, took too much time off when our daughter died, and it just ate a hole in my soul. Putting my head into the job has kept me from tipping over completely. Wish I could get Bec thinking like that.

Happy Holidays, all

-JD-

Angel

JD, I am so very sorry. Brad

Angel

> Thanks, I needed a hug! Yep, it is a big hole. 'Bout the only thing you can do is keep on keepin' on. My outlet is my work, took too much time off when our daughter died, and it just ate a hole in my soul. Putting my head into the job has kept me from tipping over completely. Wish I could get Bec thinking like that.
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> Happy Holidays, all
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> -JD-

Yer welcome. :-$

I know that hole in the soul feeling all too well...I had to get control or else it would have ate me to death; I had a toddler to raise or else I would have been dead. I totally sympathize where both you and Bec are coming from. Give her a hug from me too!! :love:

forgive me JD

I had forgotten your ordeal. I remember the details you shared with me quite well.
Sorry to open that wound.
Please forgive me.
E.

Without pain we cannot appreciate the good times

I spent my 10th birthday attending my aunt's funeral. My grandmother was absolutely devastated, at age 70, to lose her 46 year-old daughter. She said over and over, "No parent should have to bury a child."

Last week I lost a friend who could have been my brother-in-law if he had been sillier in his high school days and kept on dating my sister instead of dropping her for the girl that has been his wife for the past 47 years. His father was at his funeral. I'm sure his father felt the same as my grandmother.

Losing loved ones during the Christmas Season is doubly hard. I lost my mother to brain cancer the week before Christmas many years ago. My dad joined her three years later during the Christmas Holidays.
I have only the slightest idea of what Sinc's family is going through. All I can tell any of y'all to do is to focus on the ones you have left. Focus HARD. Don't waste a moment, because we don't know who has what time left.
Any of y'all that know Sinc's dad or any of the people from the school shooting, go way out of your way to just let them know you share their pain and that your heart and thoughts are with them during this most difficult time. A small "I'm so sorry" or a hug can work wonders.
Go to Sinc's dad's company web site and use the contact us link to leave a word of sympathy and support for him. Let's FLOOD that web site with love and support for all of those left behind. It might help them some.

Nothing to forgive, Eric

No worries! It's a wound that never heals, gotten used to it, as much as I hate to say it that way. As others have said, look to what you still have, got a whole passel of kids, mine, Bec's and a bunch of "adopted strays" from over the years. I am thankful for what I have, Life DOES go on, it is what it is.

-JD-

> I have only the slightest idea of what Sinc's family is going through. All I can tell any of y'all to do is to focus on the ones you have left. Focus HARD. Don't waste a moment, because we don't know who has what time left.
> Any of y'all that know Sinc's dad or any of the people from the school shooting, go way out of your way to just let them know you share their pain and that your heart and thoughts are with them during this most difficult time. A small "I'm so sorry" or a hug can work wonders.
> Go to Sinc's dad's company web site and use the contact us link to leave a word of sympathy and support for him. Let's FLOOD that web site with love and support for all of those left behind. It might help them some.

Well said, Dent. Well said. :angel:

loosing loved ones>As JD said

as JD said, it doesn't ever heal, you just learn to deal with it better as time passes. I can still get teary when I talk about my daughter (died at age 6 in 1987) and it's been over 20 years... I can remember it all like it was yesterday, and never does a day go by without thinking of Rachael..

loosing loved ones>As JD said

My younger brother passed away in 1987 at 17. Seeing what my parents went through was absolutely gut wrenching. Grieving for a child I would say is the single hardest trial that a person can endure in a course of a lifetime. Thoughts, prayers, sympathies, all of that is recieved usually when the grieving parents are still in shock. As the shock subsides, the well wishes and attention is still present, but you are in such an insurmountable fog that you really do not know what to do and they are not always recieved as intended. Most bereaving parents can only find solace with other parents that have walked that long unforgiving road themselves.I believe that the people of Newtown are at the point of needing to be left alone, and what I mean by that is the media and all of the attention needs to start stepping back and observing from afar.

Grief for your child is a viscious cycle that seems like it has no-end. Like others have said, it never gets okay, you just learn to see through it.

For Foggy...

You get a hug too... :-$

For The Record...

Anytime you guys need to discuss ANY kind of loss, whether it be parent, child, relative, friend, pet goldfish, etc...no matter when it happened or how many years have gone by, you are ALWAYS welcome to discuss it here, freely. My door is always open and my heart is always here for you guys. :love: