Sorry for your loss. My mother passed 12/3/10. 89 years old. It gets better. We were at her side at the hospital 3:00AM when she stopped breathing. Non-Hodgkins lymphoma. Suffered for 3 mos. It takes time but does get better. She is at peace now
Sorry for your loss, my sincerest condolences. It's an inevitable day that I dread to face.
You'll be in my thoughts
Ralph
> Oddly though, yesterday morning I awoke wondering about Mom had just called me. She hadn't called. It was in the dream. She rarely called me. Andrea suggests maybe she was saying good bye to me already. Less than 12 hours later, she was gone. Kind of makes one wonder.
She was. I have had a similar experience with my grandpa and wondered why he came to me in a dream and so I asked and my grandpa said "because if I appeared in person, YOU would have freaked out!" He was right. :love: :-$
Condolences.
I can not imagine yet the loss of a close family member ...
Take it easy brother...
Eric,
You are a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve during normal life circumstances and we all love you for it.
This one breaks all of our hearts for you.
You're strong and you will get through it.
Your mother is still proud of you, as we are all proud to be your friends.
Don
> Eric,
>
> You are a guy who wears his heart on his sleeve during normal life circumstances and we all love you for it.
> This one breaks all of our hearts for you.
> You're strong and you will get through it.
> Your mother is still proud of you, as we are all proud to be your friends.
>
> Don
Thank you Don. I reckon you are right. I do wear my heart on my sleeve I suppose.
I've also been called an empath. Right now my heart absolutely breaks for my step Dad. They have been together 47 years. Where one went, the other followed. Like I said earlier, they were stuck like glue.
The roller coaster continues. And, like Walker Texas Ranger says "I hate roller coasters. They scare me to death." .... as they do me.
E., you have my cell # call me if you need to talk. You hang in there bud. Thing to think about now is that the suffering is done. When Bec's Mom passed a couple of years ago, I think she went willingly, in that, she was in so much pain. Life goes on, however rocky. You ever need to talk, drop the dime!
-JD-
No JD, I don't have your number.
I have you address in Anchorage but that is all have.
I would love to talk.
My number is
770 406 3304
Eric...
Please email me your address. Thank you. :-$
noodles at harntech.net
Eric...
Did you get my message?
Apparently my ISP was fu....d up at the time.
I crafted my response some 2 hours ago.
I'm still up if you wish to call.
770 406 3304
I can still use a shoulder to cry on.
E
Eric...
Hang in there man. You're in my prayers.
Eric...
I am so sorry Eric.
I just figured out a song to sing.
Hootie and the Blowfish. "let Her Cry".
That's the last song I did on stage a few years ago.
Parts of that talk to me about girl-friends. Part of it.. there is Mom in the crowd and me on stage and she's loving it. I'm the only singer in the family.
Next time I sing that song I'm going to wear it out. I will give my neighbor a heads up and she is very welcome over here. She's pretty much a hermit like me but we do see each other now and then.
Then again I can wear out Dan (or was it Don) McClean with "American Pie". I've known that song since the late 60s or early 70s. 71'sh I'm thinking.
Now that I think about it, the first choice doesn't work. The second choice doesn't really fit well either. Both songs work for me on stage. (it's still scary)
Neither song fits with Mom.
I'm open to suggestions. Her cremation is to happen by week's end.
That kind of weirds me out. I hadn't known before the other night.
I imagine in the end (probably next week) I'll figure out something.
Perhaps I'll do the 23rd Psalms or my three feathers ceremony.
In the mean time I'm still a frickin wreck.
> Now that I think about it, the first choice doesn't work. The second choice doesn't really fit well either. Both songs work for me on stage. (it's still scary)
> Neither song fits with Mom.
>
> I'm open to suggestions.
E, my deepest, heartfelt sympathies. I lost my mother in '99 in a car crash. She was 53, and it was too soon. But I guess it's never the right time to lose your mother. That was 13 1/2 years ago, and I still miss her. A lot. It took a long time to get over the shock, but I don't think I'll ever get over the emptiness in my life and in my heart.
As far as the song goes, maybe you should write one yourself. Most of the best music was written straight from the heart, like Clapton's "Tears in Heaven." You've got the musical background, and you've got the heart and the pain. That can be a powerful mix in the right hands. Your song can be an outlet for you, and can touch other people who are also in pain.
To be honest, I'm not much of a praying man; but I'll be praying for peace and comfort for you and your family over the next couple of weeks to get through this tough time.
~BH~ (Bro Hug)
-Joe
> I'm open to suggestions.
Sorry for your loss eric. This was played at my fathers service at my brothers request.
It hurts, but, it's one of the laws of nature. Parents should go before their children do.
It's been nearly 16 years since my mother passed on. Nevertheless, she was in a dream I had a couple of nights ago. Dad's been gone almost 22 years and he was in a dream last night.
Big E.
There will always be a hole in your heart there. It will heal up around the edges, but, the hole will still be there.
It's ok. It's ok to have a hole there. If you did not love her, there would be no hole.
God Bless.
Nate
> As far as the song goes, maybe you should write one yourself. Most of the best music was written straight from the heart, like Clapton's "Tears in Heaven." You've got the musical background, and you've got the heart and the pain. That can be a powerful mix in the right hands. Your song can be an outlet for you, and can touch other people who are also in pain.
>
I'm not much of a writer. I've tried. Ironically the night I got the news I went next door to cry on my neighbor's shoulder. It was raining and my first thought was "Tears From Heaven". Mom actually sent me that CD. It was from Eric Clapton's unplugged album. Talk about full circle.
> ~BH~ (Bro Hug)
Bro hug accepted and gladly welcomed.
> > I'm open to suggestions.
>
>
> Sorry for your loss eric. This was played at my fathers service at my brothers request.
>
> The leader of the band
I like those lyrics. Line #1 hit me right between the eyes. I am the only child between Mom and my Dad. They both re-married a few years later and thus I have steps and half-siblings.
