Hard to believe it has been 4 years. That day, by far, was THE worse day of my life!! ????
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But, I can say in time, things have gotten a bit better.?ÿ I have learned to live and laugh and love again. ????ÿ
Today, Wendell and I will go out and honor my mom with something she enjoyed: A buffet dinner at the casino and a little bit of gambling. Me, the cheapskate, only puts $20 in, though!! ????ÿ
Anyhow, today a friend shared this quote with me on FB. I thought it would be post worthy.
Maybe it will help someone else out there like it did me. ?????ÿ
Nice way to remember, and a very nice quote. She will indeed live forever in your memory.
Wow!?ÿ It has already been four years!?ÿ Seems like a much shorter time since we followed your experience with this loss.
My mother has been gone for over 22 years but still think of her quite frequently for one reason or another.?ÿ
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Earlier this afternoon my wife asked if I remembered where we were 19 years ago today.?ÿ After much thought I said we might have been at a funeral.?ÿ She corrected me.?ÿ October 19, 2000 was the day we watched her baby brother lose his battle with brain cancer at only age 34.
What holds me together, in this matter is simple.
Jesus took my place, on the death stake, and gave me a place in his throne. If God let imperfect people into heaven, then it would not be Holy. But, by giving us Jesus holiness 1st, we can enter his heaven, without defiling it.
I have an eternal home, with God, in his perfect heaven, without sin, through the enormous work of Jesus, on the cross. There is peace between me, a sinner, and God, who is Holy, by this path, of Jesus death, and resurrection. It is the hope of all Christians, from Adam in the garden, until the last human on earth.
1 Thessalonians 4:16-18
For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:
[17] Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.
[18] Wherefore comfort one another with these words.
God's comfort to the bereaved.
Nate
Wow!?ÿ It has already been four years!?ÿ Seems like a much shorter time since we followed your experience with this loss.
My mother has been gone for over 22 years but still think of her quite frequently for one reason or another.?ÿ
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Earlier this afternoon my wife asked if I remembered where we were 19 years ago today.?ÿ After much thought I said we might have been at a funeral.?ÿ She corrected me.?ÿ October 19, 2000 was the day we watched her baby brother lose his battle with brain cancer at only age 34.
Yeah, it's hard to believe! My dad died 18 months after her so I had a double whammy there. ????ÿ
I did fairly well, today, surprisingly. This is the first time I have been able to honor her, and not bawl my eyes out over the "date".
I think it may have something to do with my continuing quest and knowledge for my work in taking care of the dying.
Since 2016, I have been active in NODA at my local hospital, for local hospice companies and assisted living facilities. I also get the occasional family member, neighbors and friends who request my care. I never ever turn anyone away.
And...I just recently got on board with EOLCOR and did a two day intense training session with them.?ÿ I felt like I was with my tribe. I am very honored and blessed to be able to work with such organizations that are so compassionate and invest so much into the care of the dying.
My trainings and experiences with different patients and families has taken me on journeys I could never explain in just words alone. I have been able to understand so much more of why I have felt how I have over my loss of my parents. I use to think I was nuts for taking so long to try to figure out why their deaths were just about killing me, too. ???
My training and experience has also helped me understand what my patients and their loved ones are also going through when they experience a similar situation.
Like I tell everyone...There is NO TIME LIMIT on grief. I just needed to remember this and apply it to my own life. I have. ?????ÿ
And...We wives, we never ever forget those kinds of "dates". That was her baby brother...I can't even imagine having to go through that. 🙁
A very nice quote. Fresh memory Always
Angel, kiddo, I have no words. ?ÿPlease just know that I am here, right beside you.
I lost my father about 15 months ago.?ÿ I still want to call him and ask his opinion about things or tell about something I saw or read.?ÿ I know he is now pain free and in a better place but I still miss him.?ÿ Every day is a little better though.
Andy
I lost my father about 15 months ago.?ÿ I still want to call him and ask his opinion about things or tell about something I saw or read.?ÿ I know he is now pain free and in a better place but I still miss him.?ÿ Every day is a little better though.
Andy
I still find myself doing that with both of my parents. I want to call them and pick their brains on stuff. They always had great advice, even if a cuss word or two was inserted into that advice. ????ÿ
I have my last voice mail saved from my dad. I play it from time to time just to hear his voice. Every day is indeed a little better, but it feels like it took me 10 years to get to that point. ?????ÿ
