There is nothing I can add to this letter.
Not a surveyor, a friend.
Rest In Peace Dear Friend
I've got bad news. I have been hospitalized since Tuesday , my second long stay this month. I am suffering from another abdomen blockage.
I have not eaten or drank since the Monday before I checked in. Initially my docs hinted that this will probably just keep reoccurring until I'm gone. They estimated a remaining lifetime of 1-3 months. With a lack of health improvement on Monday my time was reduced to 2 weeks to 1 month.
Tuesday we told my daughters. It broken my heart watching them absorb the news and brake down. I failed them.
I have been working on this email to you for a few days now. I have a lot of weakness from lack of sleep and food/water. It is quite difficult to communicate via speaking or typing.
Two days ago I had a minor procedure done to change my outlet bag to something more manageable at home. I made a mistake and the heavy bag fell improperly connected to my body and tearing into the location where it was attached to my body. There was a lot of bleeding and a quick minor procedure to fix the problem.
I will probably be in hospital until sometime early next week. I want to get home asap to spend as much quality time with my children. Before being discharged though, we have to make sure the new drain is working properly, to finalize pain relief plan and to prepare by body for possible TPN feeding.
I hate telling you all this crappy news, but it's better you heard it from me than me wife after I'm dead. I'm too exhausted to type anymore. Please break the news to others in ********* who may ask about me.
Thank you very, very much for being a great friend to me for a long time.
Goodbye bother. See you in the next life.
Yikes.....that's tough to read. Sorry to hear your friend isn't doing well. At least he's accepted things and has shown appreciation of your friendship. Best of luck...
I think it's an awesome letter. It's showing he's cognitive, thinking, and caring, enough to write, and he still cares, loves, and gives. It's him giving. Giving his last. God bless him!! I'll probably die under a dozer somewhere, and nobody will know I'm even there, until a week later, when they move the dozer!! Ha! I like your friend. He's a giver. I hope nobody takes offense at my take on this.
Nate
I'm with Nate. It's difficult to read, but it's also awesome that he was able to say goodbye and thank you for being such a great friend. I've never heard of anything like this happening before. I would love to have something like this from my Dad or my Grandmas. I think your friend truly will rest in peace because of this opportunity.
Be aware of how he thought about you and his feelings about being good friends. Your grief should recognize that true friendship.
May his family and others find comfort that he cherished them all.
He passed today at 41 and left a wonderful wife and 2 young daughters.
I am at a loss
Chuck, you have lost a friend today the likes of which many folks will never know, but you are better for having known him, and from his letter, it is clear that while he expects you to miss him, he would not want you to dwell on the pain of his passing. Not everyone gets to say goodbye, bless him.
Sorry for your loss Chuck. Sounds like the world lost one hell of a man. The world needs more people like him, one of the good guys.
What scares us all a little bit is that a person can seem to be relatively normal and rational yet so close to death. Maybe that is actually a good thing. But, scary at the same time.
It is wonderful that he was able to share such clear thoughts with you and that you cared enough to share them with all of us. Thank you.
Wow....... so sorry to hear that. Those are the kinda friends that become a piece of your heart. Its always hard to let them go but it makes for a sweet home coming when your time comes.
Chuck, thoughts and prayers for you and his family and friends.
Sorry for your loss, the cherished memories you have will last forever.
Your friend was a very courageous and proud human being.
May he RIP and his memory live on.
The best way to pass is under a hospice environment. My late wife had that opportunity to have family and close friends come by to celebrate a life well spent!
Sorry to hear this. I hope when my time comes I can face up to it like your friend.
I lost a friend one week ago. His case was lung cancer that wasn't caught until it had spread. His son was driving him back to California for his last days but he didn't make it there - they had to stop a half-day into the drive to put him in a hospital where he died. I worked with him where we both volunteered at the arts venue, where I always saw him take smoke breaks outside. I suppose it didn't matter if he kept smoking after the diagnosis.
Great closing letter, I am sure it gave comfort to many.
Yesterday morning my sister in law died. She had been sick for a couple/few months and a few weeks ago she had decided that she did not want any visitors or phone calls. We had to accept that and respect it. Her personal choice, her "style". Yes, if my wife had a letter from her like that it would have been cool, but Raquel was not like that.
Time is short for all of us. Make your peace every day... today could be that special day
