My 14 year old daughter

Lock up the house, get yer shotgun out and clean it out on the front porch....

No problem. It's when she goes on the first date. You need to make sure that when you explain to the puke that brings your daughter back on the date at 8:30 p.m., not to be alarmed because your only cleaning the 12 gauge.

Pablo

Let him know that there are 1519 friends of yours that are following this potential relationship.

Then say, some of them are of Italian descent.

We are all Uncle Bucks around here!

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I second this! :good:

Congratulations for being the kind of a father that your daughter is comfortable talking with you about boys. I am a grandfather with granddaughters the age of your daughter. I hope they are talking to their fathers. I think they are.

Keep talking. There is nothing wrong with a girl liking a boy, in fact just the opposite, it is supposed to happen. Keep talking. Teach her how to have fun relationships with boys that are within the bounds you work out together. Make sure she knows that she can invite her friends, both boys and girls, to your home when a parent is at home. Keep talking.

I know it is easy to joke about, but for a father and daughter it is a critical time. Keep talking. You are doing a good job if she is talking to you.

Grandpa Jerry

Oh, boy. The fun has just begun. After surviving three daughters I now have a 14 year-old granddaughter. She attends one of the largest high schools in the State as a freshman and is dating a freshman from another of the largest high schools in the State. They literally have a few thousand others to choose from. That is the scary part. There is no way for the parents to know all that much about the other kid or their parents, etc.

Thanks a lot man. Sounds like something my dad (his name is Jerry too) will probably be telling me soon too. He goes by Grand Dad.

First, get your guns ready. Second, bring one of your shovels inside. When the boy comes by, be cleaning your guns, show him the shovel and tell him “you have a lot of land somewhere and you don’t think anyone will miss him”.

Seriously, if she goes out on a date, make sure he comes inside when he drops her off. Then ask them about what they did, what the movie was about, etc. Talk with them for about 15 minutes. You can get an idea if they did what they said they were going to do. If the guy come back, they may be ok.

Good luck,

Miguel

This reminds me of my younger daughter before she got interested in boys. I told her all boys are scum except for her father and brother. I had her repeat it to me on occasion. Once she started having an interest in boys I asked her to repeat it to me. As she was reciting it, it changed: Boys are...................(with a little hesitation)...........nice. I knew then I had lost.

Ask her about the boy and why she likes him. If there are things you dislike with respect to her answers then gently quiz her with your questions. Don’t forget you were also once a teenager. 😉

Have a great weekend!

>Don’t forget you were also once a teenager.

That's probably why he is worried.

Well, first of all, a middle school girl should not be dating. Period. Tell your daughter that you love her so much, that you care about her so much that you want to help her and approve everyone that she desires to date. Have him come to the house and have dinner with you. If he wont do that, he isn't worth the time of day. Second, your daughter simply cannot date at that young age. When she does get to high school, only double dates will be allowed. Kids that age think they know everything. Listen and love. Be humble. Your daughter will se you care.

Tell her to trust her instincts. I wish I could tell to every young female. For the most part, you've already taught her what is right/wrong. She knows. Keep the lines of communication open - make her feel that she can always count on you, her Dad. Encourage her NOT to settle for anything less than a "princess status". Be happy when she's happy and curse any son-of-a-gun that makes her cry. Be there to photograph her joy and be there to hand her a kleenex. One day, she may choose to walk down the isle to marry someone worthy ... with YOU right by her side. Right now, go give her a hug ... in two years, she'll be driving.

Too Late Now To Worry

Everything that could be taught by you should have been taught years ago. You and your wife have to now trust in yourselves that you did it right.

Our daughter was 14 when she was asked on a car date. We allowed it.

Think of it as the first of your many final exams.

Some other exams that you have to look forward to:

1/ Giving her your car keys.

2/ Her first accident. *

3/ Her first ticket.

4/ Letting her drive her friends.

5/ Giving her her own car keys.

6/ Going away to college.

* I have triple experience with # 2.

My own first accident was pulling into a high school parking lot space and catching the rear quarter panel of the next car. Had to go to the office and get a PA announcement to find the driver. It was a girl I did not know and this was the very first day her father let her bring his car to school. I can still hear my father on the phone trying to calm down her father that it was in no way her fault and he should not take it out on her. He truly impressed me that day.

As to my two children, three cars totalled, and all were accidents without any childish misbehavior. I have little experience with misbehavior, except for # 3 above.

Congatulations dad, and consider your bright future, school plays, athletics, band, high school graduation, college graduation, dancing to "Daddy's Little Girl" and grandchildren.

Been there, done that, still here.

Oh BTW, and axe pick handle reserved for a boyfriend long ago still stands in the corner by the front door.

Paul in PA

Brad-

Practice this in front of him:

Cheers

Derek

here is what i wish my dad would have said:

you are a smart kid. relationships come with big decisions. i trust that i have raised you to be smart enough to make those decisions in the proper way but if you need to bounce anything off of me know that i am always here. remember EVERY choice you make has a consequence, some are small but some are huge and potentially life changing. think before you act. let your heart and your head guide you. don't let anyone talk you into something you don't believe in. stand up for your beliefs at any cost. you are an awesome person and you deserve only good things from this life but you are steering that life now, please handle it with the care and respect it deserves.

then give her a short leash and see how she reponds. trust but verify. if she screws up lock her in the basement until she is 26.

Try this:

Cleaning this gun

DDSM

That is a great speach. Mind if I use it?

Miguel