About 29 hours later, a message was received
I opened the post in question up, looked at it for about half a second and realized it wasn't something I wanted to look into any further.?ÿ Hit the "back" button and read a different post I was interested in and never even noticed that post again.?ÿ Wouldn't have even known it was removed as it wasn't something I wanted to view.
Even though you probably do so in much shorter time in most instances, 29 hours is unrealistic to expect you to address a MINOR issue on a message board you host in your valuable spare time.?ÿ The response you got when pointing out you have full-time paid work was rude enough that I doubt I would have the patience to even be debating the ban.?ÿ It is very calm/patient of you to pause and think on it (probably for more than 29 hours).?ÿ Life is too short to put up with someone being that rude both with their expectations and with their response.
I know I have posted somewhat rude responses and I have read replies to me that were very obviously meant to be somewhat rude.?ÿ However, they were rude in the sense of people have an energetic discussion about a topic they are very interested in and disagreeing with each other.?ÿ The response you received read as a "I don't care about you as a fellow human being, so just do what I want" level of rudeness.
Keep up the great work Wendell.?ÿ It is amazing how well developed and ran this website is.?ÿ But, ESPECIALLY when considering that it is a passion project and not your full time job!!
@jon-payne Thank you for the thoughtful feedback! It's really sad, because he was a long-time member (since July 2, 2010, just a couple days post-launch). I try to be patient, but it's really hard to do that sometimes. I have to remind myself that maybe the guy was having a bad day or something. That doesn't excuse abusive behavior, but we all make mistakes.
In the earlier days, I used to stew and worry about messages like this. It was having a negative impact on my life -- but that was partially my fault for allowing it to happen. I would argue back and forth with these people and it only made things worse. At some point, several years ago, I realized it wasn't worth it. So I got pretty heavy with the ban hammer. I've loosened up only slightly since then, allowing people to incriminate themselves at least twice before I pull the trigger. It proves (to me) that banning them is the right thing to do but without allowing it to continue for more than a couple of exchanges. It seems like a good balance and I don't get upset anymore. In fact, I tend to laugh it off now.
It helps that I have an amazing support system (my wife @angel). She's been moderating BBS', forums, social media groups, and even in-person events for many years now. She understands what happens and the best way to deal with them. We actually bounce ideas off each other and we make a good team. I'd probably have shut this site down years ago if it wasn't for her support (and patience).
I liked the old P&R. I could permanently turn it off. As long as I can block it and never see it all's good!!
I don??t understand why the complainant does not contact the poster rather than whining unnecessairly to the Administrators. ?????ÿ
But I digress
Back in the early days, I found myself getting angry, extremely angry. I didn't like it. I learned that the flow of energy in the universe; is fueled by emotion. It flows on a spiral; positive energy flows up; negative energy flows down. It's a constant struggle. It's a lot easier to go down, but you're not going anywhere; you're going backwards. It's a little bit of a struggle to go up; but you're making progress, going up.
Sorry, I may have dipped a little to the religious side; you can delete me if you like. If we didn't have a gray area, we'd be boring...
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I learned that the flow of energy in the universe; is fueled by emotion. It flows on a spiral; positive energy flows up; negative energy flows down. It's a constant struggle. It's a lot easier to go down, but you're not going anywhere; you're going backwards. It's a little bit of a struggle to go up; but you're making progress, going up.
Neat. ?ÿNow they can??t delete it. ?ÿ Muwahhaahahaa..
I'd probably have shut this site down years ago if it wasn't for her support (and patience).
In which case @angel you have the full support of everybody on this site - keep Wendell under your thumb!!
I don't look at every thread but I have frequented a lot of forums over the years and this is the friendliest one I've ever seen in my life. Full of nice people obviously.?ÿ
Wendel,?ÿ
None of us say it enough, but your time and effort is certainly appreciated. If it is any small consolation, it is moments like this that I am reminded what a resource this site is, and toss a few bucks your way, to keep th lights on.
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I'm the nicest guy I know. Just ask me.
I may not be politically correct, but at least I'm right about avoiding decaf coffee!
That's hate speech! ????
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I don??t understand why the complainant does not contact the poster rather than whining unnecessairly to the Administrators. ?????ÿ
Even easier would be to use that little wheel on their mouse and just keep scrolling if they see something they don't like.?ÿ Why even waste your precious time on this earth to formulate a complaint??ÿ Just wow.
Some people have a need to be noticed, even if that results in being a PITA to everyone else.?ÿ Their ego is stroked if something occurs and they believe their complaining somehow was the only reason it occurred.
