I just celebrated my 48th wedding anniversary; it probably would've been cut short, if we worked together...
I've been surveying for almost 48 years, too
Shortly after we married, my second wife (current) attempted to tell me how to run my farming business. We had a discussion (FIGHT) about that. She promptly began ignoring my farming decisions. That was much better for both of us. While I was laid up for a few months lately with a back problem, she did help out some with feeding cattle. She was careful, though, to not make any comments as to what I was doing wrong. Wise decision for both of us.
We recently hit the 25th anniversay milestone. I had made it only about 14 years with wife number one and she had made it less than 10 years with her husband number one. There is a lot of education packed into divorces that you just can't get anywhere else. This summer would have marked 52 years if I had stuck it out with the first wife.
Don't ask how many wives there were between wife number one and wife number two. As far as I can tell, their husbands still don't know.
I moved in with my GF five years ago and am a PLS, she works in an entirely different career field but for the last three years we have shared the same home office and are together 24/7. We get along great and both have learned a ton about what the other does for a living. She goes to her office twice a week lately and works a half day there and I only go to my office once a month or so. I love it!
@holy-cow I love your cheeky banter - I pray for all those married / involved with a surveyor. Most surveyors get that life is supposed to be so simple and yet have to deal with head scratching issues on a daily basis.
The hardest part is that it is 24/7. It's our whole life, lifestyles and family income. We make an effort to go away, just the two of us, each year and turn it all off for anywhere from 4 - 21 days. And everywhere we go we find / see benchmarks and it bonds us in the weirdest way.
Cheers to many more years with your current wife.
My wife is our book keeper / accountant and it works out great- she is way more motivated than I am when it comes to the collecting money side of the business. Every once in a while i will grab her for a survey instead of sending a crew if its simple and in a place she hasn't seen- she gets to see more of the village / small town side of the state, and I get someone to help w/ measuring up for an Alta or simple design survey.
One day it will happen. Much like the day my wife was helping me carry out all the gear from the back side of where they could have filmed Survivor. I had everything else. She had only the gun in the box. She slipped at the top of a very muddy creek bank and slid to the very bottom. She swears that all I did was yell out, "Protect the gun! Protect the gun!"
That same day she was backed into a cedar tree as far as she could get bent over when she thought she heard a chain saw running in the distance. After I got the shot we needed, she looked to her left through a chainlink fence to see a caged bobcat looking back at her from no more than three feet away from her face. That low warning sound was the chainsaw she thought she was hearing.
My wife would fire me first chance she got. She's yin and I'm yang in our marriage and that's why we we've been together 21 years and married almost 16.
Could you work with your spouse?
Yes, but some heated arguments come tax time. She did the books, I did the rest, and would try to claim anything as a tax deduction. Didn't work, she went straight by the rules. But you know men.
In business for 32 years and married for 54 years. Met in High School. Sold business and retired 3 years ago at 70. Still own office building and rent to the new owner.
After 25 years of marrige I suspect you already know the answer to your question.
We have been married for 39 years, there is no way I could work with her, either the Homicide Detectives would be interviewing her or they would be interviewing me, she is way too bossy as it is.
Huge advantage in being married to my best friend who also runs the Treasurer end of our business. I earn the money and she handles it. And i don't have to worry about anyone siphoning off the funds.
